So the university has a two day "sexual assault" conference. I'm going, hoping to learn some ideas for policy. And there is good stuff early. 91-95% of rape is committed in a calculated way by serial offenders, according to a couple of studies. So that was good info.
But, I decided to go to a "gender roles" seminar. Its for students, but I gotta know more than "kids these days", so what thf heck, I jump in. The group has to "brain map" the phrase "healthy sexuality". (Brainstorm words associated with)
All kinds of terms got shouted out and written down; condoms, consent, STDs, equality, communication, respect, etc.
Two that didn't come up; "love" and "commitment". Not a peep or an inkling of that, and certainly not "marriage".
I'm an open guy and somewhat irreligious. But I felt old today, wishin I could say, the horizontal bop is sometimes all ya got, and sex can be fun, but "healthy sexuality" is something different from " safe sex".
Been bothering me all day. Understand, it not morals, exactly, because safe sex that respects and gets consent shows a lot of moral choices. Nor that I didn't speak up for once even sorely tempted. To some extent, I was there to observe.
But it did bother me that there we are talking "date rape" and nobody is saying, "part of the solution is a committed loving relationship before chasin what feels good" as a method of avoiding these situations, why the heck not?!
Too controversial and not PC.
PS but they had a "rapper" talkin "wrappers"...
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